“Recalling a memory is not like playing a tape recorder. It's a creative process.” – Susumu Tonegawa, Born Sep. 6, 1939.
This little secret Susumu shared above is one reason why persuading and influencing people like we do can be so dangerous.
See, when you recall a memory, you're not accessing a permanent record. You are essentially re-experiencing it, and usually at least a little bit inaccurately.
It's as though your brain acts out the memory like a little play in your mind. And details are misremembered, or confused with other memories. But you're imagining the memory anew.
But that inaccuracy then gets written back into your memory. You overwrite the old details.
Your memories can be changed. Not just your interpretation of a memory, but fundamental details of the memory itself.
Because you don't actually “remember” but it's more like “reimagining”.
And that is how you can take control of this process and use it to manipulate the behavior of people you interact with.
By engaging their imagination, then conjuring memories to provide details, then asking the mark to envision future events, tying them to the memories…
You can give people an imagined “memory” of a future event that hasn't happened yet. This feels to them like a destiny. A prophecy that needs fulfilling. They “remember” it occurring and they will then do their best to make real life match that event.
It can be an event like buying what you tell them, followed by opening the box, followed by using it and enjoying it, as an example.
Or it can be used with something as simple as doing you a small favor like leaving a comment.
Like I said at the beginning, this is powerful, and dangerous. But then again, it happens all day every day where people allow TV and other media to do this to them.
Our memories are constantly being pillaged and rewritten – by entertainers, relatives, and advertisers.
You may as well jump in and grab the reins yourself, right?
<!—- lagniappe Here is a two step process to practically apply this brain-engaging persuasive technique for yourself... The process I am describing here is pretty practical if you keep it simple and direct. 1. Ask the reader to recollect some scenario that they've experienced that is unpleasant and related to the problem your product solves. Provide leading and suggestive details that will coax them to insert their own actual memories. For example, "Your typical Monday morning, stuck in traffic on your commute, same shitty songs on the radio, same boring billboards creeping slowly by, same crappy lights and broken cubicles at the office, same jerky manager and dumb coworkers, selling your time for low pay and zero appreciation until you die..." 2. Then ask them to imagine a different scenario that is the opposite - the one they would get to live out after your product solves their problem. Again, use details to coax out their own preferences and turn the imagined scenario into a "memory of the future". For example, "Instead imagine a Monday where you sleep in without setting an alarm. Your commute is a walk to your kitchen to enjoy a nice hot mug of your favorite gourmet coffee, watch a little TV, maybe eat a little breakfast, and then you ease into your 'work' of checking emails before you leave the house to go shopping or golfing or whatever it is you really feel like doing." That's it. Simple. But powerfully effective. Especially over the course of several messages. —->
6 thoughts on “Your Memories Are Imaginary (And Easily Altered With This One Trick…)”
Curious to know, after presenting them with an enticing alternative or scenario (to a painful memory) how long will it take for them to take action before some resistance snaps back in?
Everyone’s different. But in general, my advice is to do what I do – and what I do is message every day. I’m trying to replace all the other voices – or at least out-number them – when it comes to this topic. If they listen to me more than they listen to anyone else – including their own inner dialogue, I win that contest. Does that makes sense?
Brilliant. Of course, memory is really just an approximation. You try to reassemble. But, our minds are open to suggestion. How many memories do you have that are based on photographs? You could introduce a photograph that is plausible and the mind will accept it willingly.
I’m intrigued now as to whether those with an eidetic memory re-create the past, as described in your article, or whether they truly remember it as though they were playing a tape recorder.
I’m not certain – I have only read about it, and I would bet different individuals experience it differently. Regardless, they are a small portion of potential prospects for our work.
Splendid and thought provoking as usual. Each email from you has the effect of opening my imagination to greater things .
Looking forward for tomorrow when it’s my birthday and I will see which one of your selections share the same birthday with me.
Ever faithful follower