“We are slow to believe that which if believed would hurt our feelings.” – Louis Nizer, Born Feb. 6, 1902.
We don't realize how much of what we do and say and think is a result of our brain acting on its own to protect our sensitive emotions.
We are quick to reject anything that might make us feel bad about ourselves.
However, we are quick to accept the idea that some villainous force has conspired to wrong us.
So if you need to frame an argument to get a reader to change their belief, you must frame it in terms of outside interference rather than pointing the finger.
For example, if you sell a diet – you don't want to try and make the prospect believe their own choices and habits have made them compromise health and fitness.
That may well be TRUE. But we don't deal in truth. We deal in stories. And “everything bad that happens to you is your fault” is a really unpleasant story.
So don't tell people that story. Not if you want them to give you their money. Give them a story where they have been wronged. Lied to. Screwed over. Maligned.
Blame it on metabolism, or fast food advertising bombardment, or low quality foods being abundant and high quality food rare. It's society. It's upbringing. It's Martians.
So it's not their fault… Even if it is. Doesn't matter. It's not, so far as we are concerned.
Because their money doesn't care whose fault it is. So neither should you. Give them a nemesis, let them have a scapegoat. Provide excuses.
So long as the underlying truth is still delivered: that they are eating incorrectly, and the solution is to change it.
And it just so happens that you know of such a transformational solution they can have… in exchange for money.
And they will go for it. Because you're not just selling a diet or workout video or whatever. You're selling exoneration. You're sharing a return to innocence. You're selling a baptism. A new beginning. A clean slate.
Everyone wants one. Anything can be one.
If you sell it right.
<!—- lagniappe Here, as an add on to the concepts uncomfortably expounded above, I will share some ideas on who and what you can use as an effective scapegoat for your prospect’s problems so you can spare their feelings. 1. Genetics. It’s not their fault because it’s a consequence of random cellular biology - but we can overcome that with knowledge of the shortcoming and effort to circumvent it... 2. Society. It’s not the individual that is the problem, but the forces of culture and expectation and the pressure to conform to certain roles and classes. Can we help them break those chains? 3. Government. Powers that be. The establishment. It is aligned against them in a classic “David vs. Goliath” competition with them perpetually cast as the underdog. The loser. The heel. 4. Competitors. People who are opposed to them and actively working to defeat and conquer and erase them. People who will never let them stand up and take their rightful place and position in the world. 5. Rivals. Those who would otherwise be colleagues or maybe even allies - but who are really in it to jockey for position and take the lead spot the moment they show weakness. 6. Allies. Sometimes those who love you want to protect you from things that MIGHT harm you, but they are overprotective and over zealous and it is artificially limiting their true potential for success, well-meaning as they may be. 7. “Them” - In rarer situations, you can accuse a full-on conspiracy. Not just rivals, competitors, government, and self-sabotage - but it can go beyond to be attributed to COLLUSION between all those forces to DELIBERATELY shut you out. To freeze you out of participation, to lock you out of competing. Use these in solo or in combination as appropriate. They are powerful influencers when it comes to bringing confused and conflicted people around to your side and turning them into customers. —->